Why Dating In 2014 Makes Us Sad & How To Stop!

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I feel like this shouldn’t be so complicated, but the older I get, the more I see such a problem with some people just not knowing how to be.

Remember the old saying, “treat others the way you’d like to be treated?” Sometimes it seems as though people don’t even know how THEY want or DESERVE To be treated. So begins the cycle of treating people terribly, and getting the same treatment returned. This is basically how I see the dating/hooking up game in 2014.

All too often we are treating one another as if everyone is disposable. WE ARE NOT. We are humans with ambitions, insecurities, feelings and talents. The reality is, we never know the lasting effect dishonesty about our intentions or lack of respect for someone’s feelings can have on a person. This can really affect someones self-worth for months, even years. Isn’t that terrible? And that doesn’t make someone WEAK…it makes them human. I don’t really want that on my conscience.

All too often we are treating one another as if everyone is disposable. WE ARE NOT. We are humans with ambitions, insecurities, feelings and talents. The reality is, we never know the lasting effect dishonesty about our intentions or lack of respect for someone’s feelings can have on a person. This can really affect someones self-worth for months, even years. Isn’t that terrible? And that doesn’t make someone WEAK…it makes them human. I don’t really want that on my conscience.

As for yourself, I have so many wonderful, beautiful, talented friends who are too afraid of being “bitchy” so they don’t demand the respect they deserve in dating situations. They are afraid of coming off “needy” so they are never honest about what they really want or desire in a relationship and just settle for the occasional 2am hookup. We’ve all done it. And ultimately, we are left alone and with even less to offer a worthy companion because of how much of ourselves we spent in the selfish loser in his douchey loft downtown.

Well, I think we should stop. Anyone who is not willing to give me what I want, or respect who I am, can just leave. I encourage everyone to protect their hearts in this way.

If what you have to offer a friendship or relationship is love, emotional support and compassion, you deserve the same in return at the very least.

Don’t sell yourself short. Be nice to your heart and the hearts of those around you.

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