Dealing With A Friend’s Death
With the passing of Jackass star Ryan Dunn, friend Bam has expressed his sadness through twitter. We will all lose someone close to us in life and the question we will be faced with is “How to Cope with Death”. Buck Head has put together a couple of ideas that could help you through this tough time. 1) Think of the good times. Recall fond memories of things you’ve shared together and remember those. Do not play over the tragedy that took his or her life.
2)Write poetry, listen to music you like, spend some time alone to reflect. Doing things that remind you of your friend will help you attach positive feelings to thoughts of your friend, even if you cry the entire time you’re doing it at first.
3) Accept help that others might give you. Lean on family and friends.
4) Write a eulogy for your friend and read it at the funeral. Visit the grave. Lean on faith. If you believe in God, then pray for your friend, and for yourself and his or her other friends and family.
5)Allow yourself to feel sad. Don’t let anyone tell you how long you should feel sad, or how sad you should feel. The loss of a friend affects different people in different ways, but it is painful no matter what. Do remember that it is pain that must simply be endured, like a broken arm – there are things you can do to alleviate it for a little while, but it will eventually hurt again until it fully heals. Believe it or not, as painful as this loss is, it will fully heal in time.
5) Do something cool in your friend’s honor. If your friend liked to ride his or her bike, find out when the next MS ride is, and ride in your friend’s honor. Or if he or she battled cancer, check with the Cancer Society and do a Walk For the Cure or something similar. Donate any funds you raise in your friend’s name. This gives great honor to your friend’s memory, and does something positive in the world at the same time.